Mother Matters: rising above an August mood
by LOYLA LOUVIS
For Montclair Local
In “Mother Matters,” parenting and life coach Loyla Louvis, AACC, provides parenting tips.
She is dedicated to eliminating frustration in the parenting journey by customizing solutions to fit the uniqueness of each family. A mother of four children, she is experienced with single parenting, remarriage, home education, mentoring and teaching. Louvis runs Mothers in Training LLC, and is a certified professional parenting consultant/coach. More info can be found at Mothersintraining.org.
The lazy days of summer offer a wide array of fun for families in North Jersey. Whether it’s backyard barbecues or leisure getaways, parent and child alike enjoy a time of play, laughter, and relaxation. It is no wonder that school preparations are an unwelcome consideration in the minds of most children.
These balmy days may have a laid-back feel now, but a faster tempo will soon arrive when August bids farewell and September shifts us into an academic state of mind.
Getting through this transition period can be tricky. But with an effective strategy in place, the family can step into the new school year seamlessly.
To best utilize these final days of summer, let’s consider the following strategies:
CURATE AN AUGUST EVENTS LIST
Invite your child to create a list of summer activities for the weeks remaining before school starts. Kids love to be involved in the decision-making process. This might include researching local events and selecting a few that meet your criteria. A creative child may want to decorate his or her list for display on the refrigerator. A colorful work of art serves as a vivid reminder of the exciting adventures still awaiting the family.
CONSERVE YOUR LIMITED RESOURCES
Spread your time, energy, and dollars out conservatively. Although August activities will undoubtedly require your resources, September requires a full, fresh supply. The summer, however, can finish strong without draining your time, energy, or pocketbook. Backyard adventures can be just as much fun as anything you might do farther away. It’s all about making precious memories through conversation, connection, and a few great pictures.
CELEBRATE YOUR CHILD’S GROWTH
Turn school preparations into a special event. Going through last year’s school inventory becomes fun when transformed into a celebration of growth. Choose a day to sort through clothes, shoes, and school supplies together. Decide what to keep and what to purchase new. Give your undertaking an honorary title such as “Fresh Start Party” to make it official. You might add music, balloons, and a trip to the ice creamery to complete the festive vibe.
CONNECT WITH CLASSMATES
Getting kids together for a playdate has unique benefits in August. Inviting classmates to your house before the academic year begins tends to reduce the social anxiety some children experience as they think about the year ahead. The home environment adds a level of familiarity which minimizes awkwardness for a tentative child.
You can position your family for a great academic year without sacrificing the summer vibe. Enjoy August with confidence knowing that you are well prepared for the season ahead. With strategic planning and fun incorporated into the process, you can avoid the school preparation madness. Positively transform the mixed mood of August with these end-of-summer strategies that are fun and simple for everyone.