Obituary: Alexander Faber
Alexander “Alex” Faber, of Montclair and Verona, died on Nov. 28, 2020, after a long struggle with illness.
Mr. Faber was born in 1945 in Swabia, Germany, to Maria Mille and Teddy Faber, Hungarians who met while fleeing the imminent Communist takeover. His father died of tuberculosis when he was 3, and his mother was quarantined.
So he was sent to a children’s camp until his mother, fulfilling her husband’s dream, sent him alone to the U.S. to live with his aunt and cousins in New Jersey, from ages 5 to 11. His mother then came to the U.S. and lived with her son in New York City until he graduated from Stuyvesant High School. He then received a B.A. from SUNY at Stony Brook and an M.A. in psychology from CUNY.
Mr. Faber had a long career with the N.Y.C. Board of Education, where he was first a science teacher, then counselor/mentor, administrator and, lastly, IT manager. For most of his career he dedicated himself to alternative education at the five N.Y.C. satellite academies.
He met his soul mate, Carol, during their first week of freshman year at college. After many years, they married and had a daughter, Alexandra.
Mr. Faber’s wide-ranging passions included alternative education, ancient (and all) history, politics, finance, science and technology, science fiction, building and repairing things, indulging his green thumb, some video games, country rock from the ’60s and ’70s, hanging out with his friends at the YMCA, and having many pets – fish, birds and cats, though he loved all animals. He always threatened to get a pet monkey, but was voted down.
He smiled mostly on the inside and had a mostly inscrutable face. He was happy for others’ happiness, adventures and achievements. He always offered help, without being asked. He was good at entertaining himself with his many interests, and never bored. He could be silent for long periods, but was amazed and tickled that his wife and daughter could talk for hours. He really “got” his wife and daughter and their strange senses of humor.
He loved it when he finally got to see the Roman Colosseum, even though it was at least 100 degrees that day. He could sleep anywhere, and, as he got older, anytime. He wanted to try every esoteric beer and loved unbelievably hot, spicy food.
He was a loyal and loving husband, parent, son, nephew, cousin, in-law, uncle and friend to many.
Mr. Faber is survived by his wife, Carol; daughter, Alexandra; brothers and sisters-in-law, Sal and Gail and Thierry and Blanche; nephews Chris and Alexandre; niece Laura ( Louis); cousins on both sides; great-grand-nieces, Gianna and Alicia, and many friends.
The family requests that donations be made to any animal rescue organization.
Arrangements were by Hugh M. Moriarty Funeral Home.