Timothy D. O’Hare of Los Angeles, formerly of Montclair, died at his home on May 5, 2021, surrounded by his wife, son and friends, after a two-year battle with cancer. He was 65.

Born in 1955 in Montclair, Mr. O’Hare was the eldest of Jack and Alicia O’Hare’s six children. He attended St. Cassian’s Elementary School and Immaculate Conception High School, where he was a three-sport athlete (baseball, basketball, football), earning a football scholarship to the University of Maryland. 

After a four-year wait he seized his opportunity to start at quarterback, leading the Terps to a 9-3 record and a Sun Bowl appearance. In 1978, The Washington Post described him as “a scrambler who invests every snap with exciting possibilities” and quoted a teammate, “He’s cool and calm and a really good leader. He runs, he throws, he scrambles and reads defense. What else is there?” 

At Maryland, Mr. O’Hare discovered his second love, theater. Over a three-decade career, he performed and directed extensively — from Washington, D.C., to New York to Los Angeles —  from the Folger and the Arena to the Pearl and the N.J. Shakespeare Festival to the Celtic Arts Center and the Colony Studio Theatre, among others.


His film and TV work ranged from a video vendor on “Seinfeld” to the tragic Irish officer in the Civil War movie “Gods and Generals.” He directed several well-received productions and cultivated his talent for writing with his play “Black Horse Rising,” exploring the Irish experience in America. 

In 1998 Mr. O’Hare married fellow actor Melissa Hanson, and with the arrival of their son Declan he turned all of his attention to his most beloved role — family and fatherhood. He  devoted himself to his son, teaching and encouraging him from first steps to college baseball. 

He extended that love to a community of students and athletes, teaching in the Los Angeles schools and coaching youth sports. He was a caring and nurturing presence for each member of every class and team. 

His guitar filled his home with music and friends. He was a thoughtful, thinking man and an avid reader, eager to learn and deepen his understanding of the world. He had an innate sense of justice and never hesitated to speak up for others or his own beliefs. 

Mr. O’Hare had a sharp wit and a keen sense of humor and was a fantastic storyteller. The world is a quieter place without him. 

He is survived by his wife, Melissa Hanson-O’Hare; son, Declan; sister, Nora Martin; brothers Sean, Michael, Tommy and Dennis; aunts, Mariana Strauch and Michelle Earl, and many beloved cousins, nieces and nephews. 

A memorial Mass will be said at St. Cassian Roman Catholic Church, 187 Bellevue Ave., at 10 a.m. June 5. 

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to 826LAorg.